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Would it matter if one of your friends came "Out" to you?
Friendship / 4:23 AM - Thursday July 02, 2009

Would it matter if one of your friends came "Out" to you?

Would it matter to you if your best friend or close friend told you that he/she were gay/bi? What would your response be? Would you change the way you feel about them? Would you stop hanging out with them? Treat them different?

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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Me..??? No....One of my best friends in high school has slept with EVERYBODY..... The Butcher, The Baker, and The Candle stick Maker.....just to name a few.... I can only imagine this curious gal may have switched sides at least once...

No...I am not the Sex Sheriff...that would have been my mother...

However...I would not care to hear the details...

Thank Q verrrrrrrrrrrry much :)))

- Response by lady4u, A Creative, Female, 56-65, Cincinnati, Managerial

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I'd probably be shocked but I wouldn't stop hanging out with them.

- Response by marycherry, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Fitness

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i'd be fine with that, it makes no difference to me. My cousin that i grew up with just came out recently. All well, doesn't change who they are. I'm not even sure how it's any of my business really.

- Response by beanielou, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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It wouldn't matter as I am not the one having sex with them. Plus, it should have been suspected already. While coming out may happen "out of the blue". Being gay does not.

- Response by boggob, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Political / Government

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It would not matter to me. I had a friend in college. We were in a couple of classes together and we hung out after class. I invited her over for dinner with some of my other friends. She told me she was gay and her friend that she would like to bring and have me meet is also gay. I said fine. The thing that changed was we went to gay places and that was fun for me.

- Response by marcias, An Alternative Girl, Female, 56-65, Denver, Self-Employed

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nope thats just fine with me.

the only thing that could change is...if it was a guy friend..

They would be my new shopping buddy! :D unless they wear flannel.....

- Response by trishacable15, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Chicago, Celebrity

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im a handosme man so if they were waiting to have sex with me- it would bother me

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 46-55, New York, Who Cares?

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No it wouldn't matter to me.i'd actually feel flattered he/she trusts me enough to confide to me.as long as he / she doesn't do anything wrong ,i guess it's just fine hangig out with him/her.

- Response by fastfurious888, A Creative, Female, 29-35

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It generally makes me feel closer to someone if they come out to me. If they aren't openly gay, it shows that they trust me enough to share something they don't generally share with other people. It also gives me more insight into who they are.

It does change the way I treat them in that I'm more careful about saying things that might be offensive. I'm usually pretty careful until I get to know someone anyway, but there are some things that guys share with other guys that tend to make gay guys uncomfortable. They may overlook these things most of the time, but once they've come out to you, there's no excuse anymore, and it just shows insensitivity if you continue to make them.

- Response by An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Technical

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of course it would matter. they can choose any lifestyle they want! Thats their business! If a male friend of mine told me he was gay, I would not be able to associate with him because then other of my male friends would think I was gay. I am against the gay philosophy to begin with. At some point you must let them go their way and you go theirs or you will be sucked into their lifestyle

- Response by verygood, A Father Figure, Male, 46-55, Denver, Lawyer

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I wouldn't care. I've have plenty of bi and gay friends over the years. Never bothered me at all...of course I'm bi myself so why would I care lol.

- Response by misskitty420, A Cool Mom, Female, 26-28, Student

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absolutely NOT I have friends of a lot of different things I don't judge - I value my friends just as they are!

- Response by maniacalme, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Houston, Executive

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No. I would be happy they felt they could tell me. They would still be my friend.

- Response by dreamdancer, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Houston, Other Profession

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I would still be ther friend, it might seem werid at frist but they are still just like you but like the same sex. It never bothered me and I have lots of friends that are same sex.

- Response by shybear1988, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Student

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Of course not. If they're truely you're friend what does it matter...plus friends are likely to suspect things like that before anyone up says it out loud.

- Response by TheSshhmoe, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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I wouldn't be shocked at all...I accept those for who they are, no matter what.

- Response by lasttrueromantic, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Teaching

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my best friend is a female so I would be ok with it

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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I've had a couple of friends who have come out of the closet, and one reason why they sometimes hesitate in telling me or any other friend is because they are afraid of losing those that they care about. For me, I'm friends with them for a reason, and I chose to have that bond with them because they are people that make me laugh, smile, have a good time and are there for me when I need them the most. Just because they may like someone of the same sex doesn't mean that their values, or the person that they were, or our friendship disappears. I won't judge them for something as silly as that, and if I were to ever reject a friendship then it would be for something logicial, like a backstab or they hurt me in such a way were I can't forgive them. other then, I still continue to be friends with them because I love them for their personality,and who they are on the inside.

- Response by lovelymiss_mary, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21

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Why on earth would it matter? I am not having sex with them. They are my FRIEND. I would be flattered that they felt they could be that honest and open with me.

- Response by randyl, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Consulting

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No it's there life and I don't have to like it, but they are a good friend and I can't hold it against them.

- Response by lifestyle, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Houston

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no way! If he/she is my best friend, I'd accept them in any form, shape and size.

- Response by chichek, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

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If they came out...I would still love him/her. I have gay friends..and family members...I don't want to change anyone.
Ever.

- Response by divatoonami, A Trendsetter, Female, 29-35, Administrative

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