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Family & Parenting / 6:31 PM - Thursday July 02, 2009

I'm flabbergasted!!!!!!!!!! !

Why do women think that fathers have less right to their child than they do?

You can't just "take" your child away from his parent. It's not legal!

Update: July 02, 2009.
A father has a LEGAL right to raise his child. The past should not remove that oppurtunity from him. My ex spent little or no time with my kids when we were together. He is a very good part time father and spends time with them. He is not as involved as I would like him to be inbetween visitation, but I still give him the chance. THAT'S my point.

- Asked by myndseye711, An Engaged Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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I never could understand this mindset.

Seems like some women think that they own their children because they gave birth to them. They see the father as extraneous.

No wonder we have such a screwed-up generation coming into adulthood right now.

- Response by piscesrising, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Boston, Celebrity

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That's how women are these days.

First, they trap a man into marrying them.
Then, they start to fall out of love with him for no particular reason
Lastly, they plot how to steal his money and his kids so that he suffers.

- Response by seanc, A Guy Critical, Male, 22-25, Financial / Banking

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i'm glad to see some mothers like you are still reasonable. many mothers from divorces i've witnessed believe the WIN the children as part of the divorce decree. that they are her PROPERTY. its so sad in the society we live in.

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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Some women forget that it takes half of a man's genetic material to produce a baby. lol.. And a child needs a father. I would have liked to have one. ;-)

- Response by anonymouspersona, A Hippie Chick, Female, 22-25, Miami, Student

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I agree with you!
I would never tell the father of my kids he can't see them... There just as much his as mine.

- Response by babygirlstar81, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28, New York, Self-Employed

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I take it you don't mean all women. ;)
"She" seems to be in a situation of convenience for 'her'. She doesn't seem to know what a relationship is, outside of 'her'.

- Response by twocents47, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Who Cares?

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Before you bash away, read the question.

I don't want to take our son away from him. He is 1000% welcome to partake in raising him as much as he wants.

The fact is that he is rarely there for our son, at most 4 hours a week-if he's not distracted by "more important" things. When I leave the room, he puts him down, ignores him and lets him cry his lungs out.

When I asked for more fathering, he said he has more important things to do than "babysit".

Before baby was born, it was promises of 50/50. It's more like 98%/2%.

If we stay here, I have no job options and no decent child care either. In my hometown, I can get a well paying job that gives me time to properly raise our son, plus a lot of familial support. I could also live with my family to help raise him better.

Here, I make poverty wages so it would be hard to pay rent, and his family won't help with the baby, so our only option if I work (which I would have to) is a cold daycare that doesn't meet standards I feel safe with.

My husband also got me to move here by saying it was temporary. Now that we have the baby, he's refusing to move-even though by all rational standards my town would be better to raise a child-best school districts, no pollution (here is smog ridden), a playground in the front yard etc.

Sorry, I don't think being married should mean you're trapped in a crappy town just because your husband doesn't "feel like moving anymore".

- Response by A Cool Mom, Female, 29-35

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Actually, you are both right but I have to side with her.
IMO, if she is the sole provider, then you damn betcha moving to a 4x better job/family situation is by far the best option for the kid. She is giving him the opportunity, he doesn't seem to desire it. As long as the judge ok's the situation, then she doesn't have to stay anywhere. My X tried to flee with my boys 6 states away. The lady judge ultimately gave me full custody and told her "now you can go anywhere you want."



- Response by singledad281, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Houston, Veterinary

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happy birthday little one....

- Response by themamu, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Consulting

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Women feel they have more right to their children because most state judicial systems will rule in favor of women even when the evidence shows that the father is a more capable parent. It's really bad in my state - unless the mother is proven to be a drug addict or have mental health issues, the quality of living the mother can provide vs. that of the father has NO bearing at all in deciding primary custody.

- Response by naepius, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Indianapolis, Science / Engineering

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This is because some women are bitches are use the kids away from the father to punish the dad. The problem is when kids get older and realize what was going on they hate the bitch and she dies alone, as she should.

- Response by sphincterboy, A Trendsetter, Male, 66 or older, Dhaka, Celebrity

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I agree to an extent with the whole thing that fathers have rights too, but my ex is not involved with his kids and he is emotionally and verbally abusive, so to me he is not healthy or good for my girls. Even with that I can't keep the ass away from them and because he has right because he is a gene donor and that is about all it is. There are 2 side of this coin, the fathers like your kids who is not as involved but when he does take the time to see the kids it is healthy that say, mine not at all healthy and I have to work hard to keep them level because of the few hours a week he does spend with them attacking them verbally for this or that and turning blame on them. It just is not a good situation, so just becuase your a mom or a dad doesn't mean you should have right to your kids and be able to be a parent.

- Response by labradors, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Medical / Dental

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I don't think most women believe that. The reality is though, that many MANY men are not willing to be primary caregivers for their children in the event of a breakup or divorce. I know so many men who get their kids every other weekend, and call it "babysitting"..like they're doing the mom some kind of favour by looking after their own kids!!!!



- Response by girldownunder, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Sydney

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