My Family and My b/f.............

Me and my bf are living at home at the moment, because we are both going to college and saving to pay what we will owe on our student loans... We will graduate by May 2010, but we may not get to move in together until June or July.... Anyways the problem is my boyfriend strongly dislikes my father, and now refuses to come here to visit me. Although my dad and my mom both don't really care for my boyfriend, they tolerate him when he does come over. I always have to hear one of the three put down the other, and its really hurtful to me. I have told them all this, but apparently they cant keep opinions to themselves. It really tears me apart and it makes my relationship with my bf a lot harder than what it should be. Most of our arguments start because of anger and we project on each other. My b/f also has an unhealthy relationship with his mother, although he loves her, he often times can't stand her, and they argue more than what they should. Then I usually have to listen to her complain about her own son, why to me I have yet to figure out. I like his mother a lot and I get along with her fine, but sometimes I feel that she puts me between a rock and a hard place. I don't think it is intentional, but that is just the way it is./...

All of the stress falls on me, and I can't talk to any of them about it, or else who ever I talk to will explode and take it out on me.... I just want to make things right, and I have no idea how.....


Have any of you went though something similar?
Do you have any Ideas as to how to fix this mixed up mess?

Thanks to all in advance.... stars and 2's to all!!!