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Family & Parenting / 12:23 AM - Tuesday November 03, 2009

When do you think...

the ideal age for a married man to have his first child is?

- Asked by 20something, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 22-25, Consulting

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- Response by ruffian, A Sportif, Female, 36-45

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I say from thirty to thirty-five.

It gives you enough time to earn a prestigious degree; and at that age, you should be at a respectable point in your career. If you have a kid at thirty, by time you get them off to college, you will still be young, and you and your wife would be able to enjoy the fruits of 18 years of labor. Also at the age of thirty, that would give you enough time to move out of that revolting studio apartment so much of us bachelors have and get something more family-oriented.

Why do you ask? Is your lady companion pushing for a child? I call godfather!

- Response by holidaystyles, A Career Man, Male, 22-25, Philadelphia, Student

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I am going to have to go with at the age when the man feels ready, willing and able to care for a young child/baby and to really feel okay with becoming a father...I would have given an age but it's hard to say because everyone matures at different ages and even though my ex was 34 when we had our first child, he wasn't ready and he certainly didn't want to become a father, but then again, he never was/is a father to our children...lol...I would think that around the age of 35 or so when they are established in their career, when they are thinking about settling down and when they have already acquired some sort of financial stability so that they don't feel it was 'sprung' on them...:D

- Response by fastball, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Student

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30.

- Response by workplay, A Career Man, Male, 26-28, Los Angeles, Internet / New Media

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When his wife becomes pregnant by him, and they are both happy about it. :-)

- Response by media4u2, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Teaching

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When his wife becomes pregnant by him, and they are both happy about it. :-)

- Response by media4u2, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Teaching

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30 or younger - I waited too long

- Response by grinandbareit, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Administrative

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When his wife becomes pregnant by him, and they are both happy about it. :-)

- Response by media4u2, A Father Figure, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Teaching

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I think the ideal age for a father to be is about 30. At this point, if all has gone well, he is no longer a child himself and can if he wishes foist himself off as the best dad in the world.

Another advantage is he is hopefully out of school and earning a living and can provide well for his genetic contribution to the world.

He has had enough experience to know if his partner will be a good mom and the two of them should be able to talk without slamming the cook ware around and tossing the couch out the picture window.

Yeah. About 30 I should think. LOL rek

- Response by rekkonball, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older, Retired

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young enough to still be able to outrun the kid on the football field but not too old that at their high school graduation you are mistaken for their Grandparent.

- Response by headscratching, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45

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When he is emotionally an financially prepared.

- Response by ghfan1207, A Cool Mom, Female, 22-25, Home Maker

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NO sooner than 9 months after you get married.

Not later than your 30th birthday.

- Response by nuttyprofessor, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Transportation

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Early twenties so he is young enough to enjoy the money he is going to get by having a baby.

- Response by william45, A Career Man, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Teaching

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Whenever you feel man-enough to support your family on a single income (yours that is), and allow your wife to be home she wants to.

- Response by int24h, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Washington, DC, Alternative Medicine

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30

- Response by usarmy24id, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Celebrity

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whenever you ready and if ur stable finacially do it . the may thing is shes your wife , and when you know the time is right

- Response by caramelpie23, A Career Woman, Female, 22-25, Teaching

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30?

- Response by j3s5e, A Rebel, Male, 26-28, Retired

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At least a year after he got married, no matter how old he is.

- Response by barbb, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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At any age.....

It would definitely be a world's first.....

- Response by richard77, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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Anytime between 20-50 if he's financial situation as well as circle of family is also ready. It is important that he has no medical problems that can be passes to the child. That goes for him and the woman. I think it's a crime to have a child if you know they'll suffer or be abused some how.

- Response by rubee, A Sportif, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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around 28-30

- Response by luckyinkentucky, A Cool Mom, Female, 26-28, Alternative Medicine

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When he is emotionally and financially secure. I would say about 30.

- Response by cdmom1971, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Administrative

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I would agree with most of the other comments here.
30 is a good age.
I was 31, and my husband was 30 when our son was born. We had been married 3 1/2 years at that time, also.

- Response by goodnaturedb, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Self-Employed

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I think that if people wait until they are "ready' to have kids, the human species will soon die out.

I read somewhere that when a man can look forward to the birth of a child with the enthusiasm he possesses as he pursues a 'new' woman, THEN he is ready.

- Response by drumboi2, A Guy Critical, Male, 56-65, Technical

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If it's a planned pregnancy, I probably wouldn't try until after the first year of marriage, maybe the second. If otherwise, suck it up say tell your wife "Congratulations! I'm so happy for us!" because she's going to have enough "Ohmigod!" and other worries on her plate enough for 5.

- Response by cjennmom, A Thinker, Female, 36-45, Medical / Dental

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THERE IS NO AGE...it depends on your economical situation and your relationship...and of course on weather you WANT a child or not

- Response by adrisimme, A Sweet Sarah, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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25-30

- Response by foonlord, A Creative, Male, 26-28, San Francisco, Internet / New Media

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I'd say 30-35 is ideal time for both men and women.

- Response by girldownunder, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Sydney

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When he is mentally mature enough to stand up to the plate and take care of the baby.

- Response by seductivepisces9, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Cleveland, Student

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I second the response in regards to when he is emotionally and financially able to take care of one. Cause although my dad was not in his 30's when I was born (he was 43, my mom 35), he still had enough bank coming in and was emotionally centered enough with my mom at that time, that he wasn't trying to run away from his duties.

- Response by CursedRomantic, A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Columbus, Student

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well according to everyone else it's 30 lol. I'd say that too 30 give or take a couple of years.

- Response by TheSshhmoe, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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I don't think men can have children yet can they? That would really hurt.

- Response by hnimsoc, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Edmonton, Retired

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Whenever you feel that you are economically, emotionally and most of all mentally prepared to bring another life into this world. Specifically, you and your wife must take care of any emotional or mental problems you may have or relationship issues that may have been there. Once a baby has arrived, there will be absolutely no time for you to figure these things out. Life becomes more complicated. So, in a nutshell.. make sure you have your life together from all aspects, before you decide what to do.

- Response by A Creative, Female, 29-35, Artist / Musician / Writer

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