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| Friendship / 12:25 PM - Tuesday November 03, 2009 |
Should I wish my friend happy B-day even tho he inexplicable stopped talking to me a few weeks ago?I've been friends with this guy for several years and he's been going through alot lately (more accurately, he's been putting himself through alot lately) and a few weeks ago he quit talking to me and I don't know why (although I have my suspicions that he's done some things that will hurt me incredibly bad when, not if, I find out about them). His birthday is coming up and throughout our friendship I've never missed his birthday. I'm wondering if I should send him a birthday wish or if I should just leave him alone since he's not talking to me anyway. - Asked by A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 26-28 |
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Yes by all means send your friend a birthday greeting and best wishes. leave it at that and wait for a response. don't contact the person to see how it was accepted.If he has done or said something that would cause you grief or pain let him come clean on that matter on his own. don't fish for any information from him. But it is ok to give you birthday wishes to him regardless of the situation.
- Response by postaljohn, A Career Man, Male, 56-65, Los Angeles, Civil Service
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I'd suggest being the bigger person and send him a card anyway. It isn't going to hurt anything and will let him know that you're thinking about him even though he has chosen to shut you out. Even if he's done things that are going to anger you there is no real harm in making a kind gesture. Don't allow his actions of late to cause you to sink to the petty level he's currently on.
- Response by dalaimama, A Thinker, Female, 29-35
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If you've never missed his birthday, why start now...maybe he's just going through a lot, like you said, and hasn't been making time to get in touch with you...don't let his behaviour stop you from wishing him a happy birthday...believe me, it doesn't matter whether you're not talking to someone, if they send you a birthday greeting, it just reminds them that you are still 'important' to them...:D
- Response by fastball, A Creative, Female, 36-45, Student
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Just because he stopped talking to you doesn't mean you should stop talking to him. If you've been friends for years, then by all means wish him a happy birthday when it comes. Friendships, like any relationship, aren't perfect. However, if the friendship weathered many a storm before now, then it'll most likely weather this one as well! Whatever it is that you suspect may be the reason he's stopped talking to you may not be what you're thinking! If he's really going through something, then just be there for him and just listen to him when he's ready to talk. Best wishes!
- Response by Veronica71276, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?
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I would send him a birthday card and let him respond back. If he doesn't then leave him alone. Rosey
- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?
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Yes send him a Birthday Wish. You don't need to say anything else.
- Response by hands, A Creative, Male, 36-45, Who Cares?
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A simple Happy Birthday on the actual day is not too much.
- Response by mee2, A Jock, Male, 36-45, Los Angeles, Managerial
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If he quit talking to you weeks ago, I don't know why you want to bother. If you did to him what he did to you, would he bother remembering your birthday?
- Response by pushkins, A Thinker, Female, 66 or older, Miami, Who Cares?
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I would just say happy birthday and not go out on a limb.
- Response by Ghostrider8t0, A Guy Critical, Male, Who Cares?, Technical
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