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What do you think when you see pregnant teens and/or teen parents? honestly!
Family & Parenting / 2:36 PM - Tuesday November 03, 2009

what do you think when you see pregnant teens and/or teen parents? honestly!

nowadays so many teens get pregnant or already have kids. so what do you think when you see young parents? are you one of the people who looks at them and thinks how stupid they are or are you one of the ones who respects them for their choice of keeping the baby? be honest: what do you think when you see them?

Update: November 03, 2009.
thanks everyone. it was interesting to see everyone's opinion. in case anyone is wondering, no im not a mother. so no matter what you say it isnt insulting me so no one needs to worry about that. :]

- Asked by ter3092, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21

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i don't think it's an either/or thing, nor do i think that any judgement at all is required. events like pregnancies, illness, death, loss of employment, and the like happen in everybody's life at one point or another. a bystander can't know enough to have a valid point of view.

to simply "look" and then make a "informed judgement" is oxymoronic.

- Response by two469, An Intellectual Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Consulting

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Honestly -- I think "My tax dollars at work."

I'm working so they can collect welfare, food stamps, and free medical care for themselves and their illegitimate brats.

- Response by utahmom, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Salt Lake City, Managerial

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I had my son at 19, so really cant judge.

But either way, here is my opinion.
Some young girls have a baby and do just fine, like myself. My fiance and I have made a good life for ourselves and our son. We use no government assistance, and are serious about being good parents.
Unfortunatley, most young women that end up getting pregnant do not turn out that way. THey end up dumping baby on mom and dad so they can go out and party like the rest of thier friends, they didnt stay with the father, they work low income jobs (because they couldnt finish school), thus being forced to live off the governemnt.
I have no respect for these girls. Why? Because i have been there, done that, and i know for fact that it can be done.
It took a hell of alot of hard work, but here we are almost 3 years later and we are happy with where we are, and are continuing to give our son the best we can.

It irritates me to no end, these inmature young mothers give all of us a bad name. I think we were all stupid to not be careful and to conceive a child we were not ready for, but some of us straighten up after the fact, and try our hardest to give our child the best life we can.

- Response by brisbay, A Cool Mom, Female, 22-25, Administrative

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I think she didn't pay attention in health class. Seriously. There's no excuse for getting a child in your teen years. These days, information about birth control is everywhere, including in school.

Then I wonder whether the girl is one of those who actually WANTED and TRIED to get pregnant at such a young age (pregnancy pacts etc.).

And then I pity her. And I assume they are of the religious kind and pro-life. And then I congratulate myself for not being in their position.

I'm sorry, this question is going to make you feel really bad if you're in that case. That is all that I would think if I stopped to think about it, which I did, since you asked. But normally I don't think about that. Normally, I think everybody has their cross to bear, the had free will, not like anyone forced them to have a baby. I try to not judge. But I definitely don't give credit and respect for a life decision they made on their own. That's the other side of not judging. Neither bad, nor good.

The kind of thoughts I just listed would only come into play if I thought she was an unfit parent.

- Response by A Career Woman, Female, 22-25, Student

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I only think they picked the wrong way to keep their guy..
Boyz dont want babies...

- Response by secilia, An Alternative Girl, Female, 26-28, Athens, Body Work

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I don't think teens should have sex because they aren't ready to be parents nor do they have the income to support a family. I think ...I wish they thought education and learned to say no. Rosey

- Response by roseytalks, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Tampa, Who Cares?

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I think they are disgusting and should be punished for contributing to overpopulation.

- Response by An Intellectual Guy, Male, 18-21

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I think.. they have no idea how hard parenting is. They better be good parents and get their shit together to raise the child!

- Response by almostsinful, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35

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When I see a pregnant teen yes I do think how stupid she is. I know the guy is not there for her and the soon to be kid. If I see her with her kid and her mom, I truly wonder who is raising the kid. Especially if the kid is always turning to grandma for what it wants. Teenager should be grown enough to not let grandma always give it to the kid. But MOST teens now a days, look for others to supply their kids with stuff so they can spend what ever they are getting from wherever on themselves. I truly pity the kids of most teenage mothers.

- Response by gingham, A Cool Mom, Female, 66 or older, Baltimore, Construction

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I think their parents were jerks for not having them on birth control

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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I think "it was fun while it lasted but it aint no fun no more".
Lyrics from a song I once heard. Moms got the kid while dad is out running around. I speak from experience, sad to say I was one of those teenage mothers, grew up real fast!

- Response by brendy, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Other Profession

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My first reaction is disgust with such irresponsible behavior

- Response by gilpill, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Chicago, Internet / New Media

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I wonder if they will regret their decision when they are struggling to make ends meat - I feel sorry for them

- Response by ruffian, A Sportif, Female, 36-45

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First i think what an idiot for not using birth control. But then i think about how hard it is to raise a child, especially at that age and with all the odds against you.

- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21

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I think the same thing that I think about anyone else I see . . . that I have no place to pass judgement on them (only god can do that) or assume I know what their situation is.

- Response by A Hip Hop Girl, Female, 26-28

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Actual teen pregnancy has dropped significantly since the eighties. Check your facts. So to answer your question, when I see a teen mother, I say to myself "It's great that that's happening less and less." That's right, some of us are actually optimistic rather than believing "the youth of today are screwing up the world" which people have thought for thousands of years.

- Response by lmarks, A Life of the Party, Male, 26-28, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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i just feel really sad, because they were foolish, and now their life is gonna be much harder.

- Response by foonlord, A Creative, Male, 26-28, San Francisco, Internet / New Media

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I want to help them. They are often very low on resources, and clueless about how to care for a baby. They are also very hesitant to seek help because they feel very judged by society. Another question is, what do people think when they see a teenage BOY with his pregnant gf????

- Response by girldownunder, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Sydney

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I don't think anything really. It is not any of my business.

- Response by seductivepisces9, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Cleveland, Student

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