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What's up with that huh?
Dating / 2:44 PM - Tuesday November 03, 2009

What's up with that huh?

Why do we try to fix things that cannot be fixed?
A bf/gf who doesnt want us, cheats on us (but will never do it again), has different goals and priorities, doesnt call as often or calls too much, and we cant get along, WHY do we try to fix it?

- Asked by secilia, An Alternative Girl, Female, 26-28, Athens, Body Work

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cuz rejection and failure SUCK

- Response by surrealoptimism, A Creative, Female, 29-35

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Simply because it's human nature to love and want to be loved in return. No one wants to be rejected and most will humiliate themselves trying to salvage something there is no hope in repairing just to avoid disappointment and pain.

- Response by dalaimama, A Thinker, Female, 29-35

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i think somehow we have grown up in a broken environment...we expect life,relationships to need fixing...we accept the disfunctional as normal...sucks doesn't it?

- Response by lady4u, A Creative, Female, 56-65, Cincinnati, Managerial

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because the devil you know is better than the unknown. Lots of people have trouble finding a partner these days. Once they find one, they don't qualify him/her enough, are not picky enough and go into bf/gf mode immediately, without checking if there are common goals, interests, compatibility etc.

Once they discover he is not all they imagined (or maybe they are overly picking and idealizing them at first), they are too scared to cut it off and go look again.

It's too scary being single and dating again and much easier to stay and try to fix, especially since you see it as your fault. At least that's how it looks for people with insecure attachment.

- Response by clairette, A Career Woman, Female, 22-25, Student

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the challenge to see if you can. not wanting to feel like a failure..

- Response by almostsinful, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35

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Because deep down we are all suckers for punishment.

...:)


- Response by bluegenel, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Technical

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If we don't try to fix it, it means we have to face the ultimate hurt from that relationship, admitting its failure and working on mending the hurt heart ONE MORE GODDAM TIME!

- Response by stoney07, A Creative, Male, 56-65, Seattle, Who Cares?

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Very good question.

Maybe life is a journey that has twists and wrong turns and detours and mistakes.

- Response by justme85206, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Phoenix, Other Profession

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it may be better just to move on

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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