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I've heard it said that friends usually make the best couples....
Friendship / 2:58 PM - Tuesday November 03, 2009

I've heard it said that friends usually make the best couples....

She said she loves me and that she wants me in her life forever. I love her too and we agree that we are very happy and lucky to have "found" eachother.

yet i have a desire to be more than just friends as i believe that she does too... however, the chance that a relationship won't work out and we no longer are such good friends is a possibility and it makes her more reluctant to try to further things between us (and i'll admit that i too have this concern).

if you have any experience with this type of situation or suggestions on how to take our friendship to the next level, any explaintions would be appriciated.

- Asked by Male, 29-35

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Let me see....if two friends.....really good friends are NOT suppose to marry.....then does that mean two persons who hardly know each other, who have never had a chance to know how to trust or like what the other does, and they each have an illusion about what they THINK the other is like SHOULD?

I don't think so!!!!!!!

Look....the two of you need to spend time together at a level that is comfortable. And, it would seem that is what you are doing. So...enjoy each others company. If the two of you have apprehensions about what that next level feels like...talk about it....just like you would at the other levels....If there is a fear....talk about it....That is how all great marriages last....talk, talk, talk.....learn learn learn....That is Life....so, if you found someone who is willing to learn with you....Go for it! BE FRIENDS....and love it.

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- Response by angllhugnu2, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Administrative

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Nothing ventured, nothing gained. People who strattle the fence usually miss out on great opportunities and who better to date than your best friend?

- Response by clueless37, An Alternative Girl, Female, 36-45, Administrative

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Take a leap.. life is too short! Friends do make the best lovers!

If you both are considerate and kind, even if things don't work out you can maintain a friendship.



- Response by almostsinful, A Married Girl, Female, 29-35

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You bed her. Voila, you're in a relationship! The dynamic doesn't have to change if you are determined to not let it. If you are good friends you will be a good couple. If you are worried about losing her as a friend; that is going to happen anyway if and when she meets another man so you may as well go for it.

- Response by newnumbersguy32, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Financial / Banking

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Just remind yourself that nothing in life worth having comes without at least a little risk. Whether it's meeting new people or taking a new job,there's ALWAYS a risk that it doesn't work out. The same goes in developing a relationship. You just have to decide whether she is worth that risk.

- Response by mikehug, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Cleveland

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I've heard that friends make the best couples, but honestly I've never seen it happen. What I've seen is people who get together as couples and then become friends, but not the other way around.

First you need to ask yourself what she does for you. You're there for her, giving her validation and fulfilling emotional needs. Is she there for you? Does she reciprocate? Or does she just say these things so that she can use you emotionally?

I get the sense that a lot of women use the "it would ruin our friendship" argument because they don't want to lose the friend who does everything for them and expects nothing in return.

- Response by lawyerdude, A Career Man, Male, 29-35, Lawyer

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She's probably just stringing you along to fulfill her own companionship or intimacy needs until she finds another 'bad boy' to treat her like garbage.

- Response by boggob, A Guy Critical, Male, 29-35, Political / Government

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Friend to lover? Don't know about that. I've had lots of female friends that never turned into girlfriends and plenty of girlfriends that turned into friends.

There is the chance that if your relationship doesn't work out you won't be friends anymore.

You need to consider is she girlfriend material? Do you find her attractive? Do you want to spend time with her as a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Also, it never hurts to have friends of the opposite sex to help you answer questions about current s/o's.

- Response by justme85206, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Phoenix, Other Profession

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friends are by far the best to have a relationship with as you already know them can talk to them and truly care about them

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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Ask her. Talk openly and honestly about it. Where does she see your relationship going? Where do you see it going? You two should both be on the same page. If you're close friends, this shouldn't be a problem.

- Response by lovesblind, A Creative, Female, 36-45, New York, Managerial

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