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Why do guys make it so difficult?
Friendship / 12:48 AM - Saturday November 07, 2009

Why do guys make it so difficult?

Why does a guy make things so difficult for a girl who likes him, why give her so much pain and hurt if he never was interested? He first conveys the impression he likes her, is attentive and caring, texts and calls her on the days they cannot meet, presents possible solutions to potential problems put up by the girl, and when he has near about convinced the girl that he may just possibly be the one, tells her he cannot reciprocate her feelings?? Do they derive some sadistic pleasure from toying around with a girl's sincere feelings? Have any guys ever felt the same about a girl?

- Asked by Female, 18-21

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yes, guys feel that way about women all the time. youre not alone in that boat. sorry it happened, but to be honest with you its called life. you learn to deal with it.

- Response by maleficpresence, A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Chicago, Technical

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Well....you have come face to face with the stark differences between what makes a man different from a woman. Women love to feel and express those feelings. Such an existence is a good one for most women. Men, on the other hand, careless about expressing their feelings. Feelings are an obstacle...as such...they can and will be seen as something with which they can use toward their seeming benefit.

As you know, when you express your feelings...your naive honesty makes you a tad vulnerable. The worst of men, who loathe feelings, put into use a sad immature tactic to prey upon the more vulnerable of women. It is a strategy that makes them feel more dominant and in control of life they sense they are clueless about....BUT, they are too affraid to admit as much. The end result.....you are left to feel worse...in his mind....then he feels clueless about how life really works.

All I can say...is chaulk this one up to a lesson learned...And, choose more carefully the men with whom you date. Choosing a man to be your friend, lover, and confidante is, literally one of your most important decisions....So, choose to learn how and why you do choose the men you choose.

AngllHugnU2

- Response by angllhugnu2, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Administrative

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There was a post about prick tease women. It is the same for men. Some men like the attention even from women they are not interested in. The fact that he pretended to be interested makes him even worse. He is a total jerk.
He may have been interested, but met someone else, or he wanted to make sure you were willing to be with him, and now he can set the terms of the relationship at a point where he can use you, and in his eyes, you are too involved now to walk away.
Boys and Girls play games, and use people. men and women do not. Unfortunately, boys becoming men, and girls becoming women is not necessarily a function of age. You see this behavior at all age levels, as can be seen in posts here from all age groups.
There are men that will treat you right, keep looking.


- Response by wolverinesegg, A Career Man, Male, 46-55, Science / Engineering

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