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An broken affair in a marriage
Dating / 5:45 AM - Saturday November 07, 2009

An broken affair in a marriage

Against my better judgement and carried away by sweet magical words; after 20 years of marriage got into a temptesous affair. The world seemed so wonderful and it was like being young and in love all over again....but after three months or a whirlwind of romance, sweet nothings and days and days of loving...was dumped and everything ended abruptly. Unable to talk about it, with no coping mechanisms; am miserable and wondering if it was worth it at all. A boring and unglamorous marriage seems so much less painful than this...Hope not many have been here and wish not many will get here. Its awful.......when I see my H completely unaware of what I have done, or am going thru.....

- Asked by A Career Woman, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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well that is one of the downsides of having an affair, when it is over you need to suffer in silence, or admit it to your Husband and make him feel as bad as you do, this will pass and you will get over it , now you need to decide if you want to stay in a dull marriage or get out. You must have some love left for your hubby to know that you should not be treating him like this

- Response by glasgowbelle, A Thinker, Female, 46-55, Glasgow, Retired

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and that is the reason most women who have affairs end up either marrying their lover (though they are not happy) or if their husbands are stupid enough to take them back, they again live in a loveless marriage.

statistics show those that remarry their affair partner are 8 times more likely to get divorced again.



- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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I am sorry
I HAVE RECENTLY GONE THROUGH THE SAME THING...
ITS SO PAINFUL....

IR SEEMS LIKE SUCH A WASTE OF PRECIOUS TIME...

I HOPE YOU CAN HEAL AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE AND YOUR MARRIAGE. I AM LOST AND DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO,.

- Response by jamiesangel777, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 36-45, Miami, Self-Employed

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But those three months gave you what your husband never gave you.
Yes, affairs are risky, no doubt. though as painful as it is,
you have the chance to enjoy the memories, and hell, who said you are not going to find the man for you? Nothing is written in
stone.
argie

- Response by argie, A Creative, Female, Who Cares?, Who Cares?

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talk to your husband about it maybe he will comfort you

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 46-55, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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I never been in the situation before. But I'm sure you feel awful but it's over now. You are not happy with your marriage so you seek happiness somewhere else but it didn't work out and maybe it's better that way. Maybe you can figure out what was missing in your marriage by having this affair. You wanted to tell your H but it would be selfish of you because you just wanted to make your self feel better and that's not fair for your H. The affair is over, move on.

- Response by elbesims, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35

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