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| Sex & Intimacy / 10:39 PM - Tuesday November 17, 2009 |
Did she not like me? I met this really cool girl at the library the other day, we got to talkingand we had alot in common. I asked her if she wanted to go across the street to the cafe and she said ok. When we got there she asked if I minded taking our coffee outside so she could smoke. I was quite turned off by this but I obliged. She asked me if I smoked and I made a stupid comment, as I always do around girls and said "no I don't want to lose a lung" she gave me a rather noticable dirty look, but didn't decide to leave. I then asked if I could have her number so I could call her sometime, she said she does not like giving her number out, but I could have her email. I said ok, I think she did not want to give me her number because the comment I made about smoking, well I emailed her and asked her dinner. Last night is when we went to dinner, I thought things went great, I felt a strong connection with her, we then went on the peir and were just talking for about an hour, although the whole time she was smoking, although I must say this girl is just to cute and intereting to let smoking be a show stopper. Once when we were on the peir I tried to put my arm around her but she quickly dodged this move. I was upset but did not let it deter me. Later while I was waiting with her until her cab came I went to say goodbye and give her a kiss, she dodged it like a bullet, but then said " I had alot of fun tonight, it'd be cool if we could hang out again" I said ok well I'll email you, she gave me a very cold hug and got in her cab. Where did I go wrong? The smoking comment? If so why did she agree to dinner? Was it something I did during dinner that she disliked? Does she just want to keep me in the friends zone? Would I seem like a chump if I emailed her now after she dodged both my trying to put my arm around her and the goodnight kiss. Please give some advice. I have never really dated and am always stupid and nervous around the ladies. I am sure she was turned off by something I did but what if she wasn't and I don't contact her then I would feel stupid, but then I don't want to contact her and then she be like "why didn't he get the hint?" Help? - Asked by Male, 18-21 |
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I too think that you moved far too fast. Nice girls do not like the physical stuff when they are still trying to decide whehter or not they even like you.
- Response by randyl, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Who Cares?
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Just guessing, but maybe she's the doesn't kiss on the first date type and thought you were moving too fast. If not, she's not that into you. I don't think it was the smoking comment as she did agree to the first date after the comment was made. What it was, who knows - women can be turned off or on by all sorts of little things...
- Response by grinandbareit, A Life of the Party, Male, 46-55, Administrative
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Maybe u r too quick in trying to be close to her. How can someone with close with another person they barely knows and emotionally. And its like the second date (right?) that u r doing it, i think it sort of scared her. I think respecting a girl is very important and taking ur time.
- Response by A Creative, Female, 26-28, Auckland
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I think the attempt to get the hug and kiss where a little to forward for the first date. Even if you feel the connection its still safe to wait until at least date three.
- Response by thicallover, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, New York, Administrative
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