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Why is the man im seeing for the past 6 months who recently told me he loved me not calling as much?
Dating / 7:43 AM - Wednesday November 18, 2009

why is the man im seeing for the past 6 months who recently told me he loved me not calling as much?

its been 5 days and i refuse to make the first contact. call it a game if u wish, but im leaving it up to him. if this is his way to leave me, then go for it. but why so soon after saying he loved me? is this some sort of normal guy behavior? i know when he's at work and usually does his calling then, but he hasn't been. ):

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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I think he is scared that he told you he loves you and now hes waiting for you to call him and give him some reasurance that he wont get hurt. I guess thats their way of protecting himself from getting hurt. Or maybe he thinks: "Oh shit, she'll probably want to get married now" But I could be wrong. Just call him and ask whats going on with him that you havent heard from him. Ask if he's ok. I personally hate when people do this. Why not be direct and straight forward? If he wants to be with you great if not then he should tell you and stop acting like a little kid.

- Response by lokipr, A Thinker, Female, 26-28, Medical / Dental

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Whoa... He's probably feeling vulnerable after voicing his love and needs reassurance from you.

Don't call him if you'd like him to go away. There are never any winners in game playing. :(

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Seattle

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you know, my pride scratches me inside when my man doesn't call me but I get over it and call him first. It usually works well. Men also want to be cared for/about and receive calls from their girl. It's about reciprocity. It could be his fear of attachment, too. You never know unless you call him. Picking up the phone, dialing his number and asking how he's doing have never and will never hurt. but if he doesn't contact you even after you call him first, then you need to give him sme time/space.
*hugs*

- Response by chichek, A Thinker, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

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If you really want to talk to him, call him- if you play games with love, you lose every time.

- Response by stillagoodguy1, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 46-55, Celebrity

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Five days and you're freaking out? And you're 30? And you're too cool to call him?

Really?

So basically you're a drama queen.

Maybe you need to grow up before attempting a monogamous relationship.

- Response by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Boston, Science / Engineering

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