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I'm sad. Please cheer me up.
Dating / 7:53 AM - Wednesday November 18, 2009

I'm sad. Please cheer me up.

I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I haven't heard anything from him for a week, especially when he said he'd call.

I know that means he's not interested and I need to let go, but unfortunately, I still really like him, so I'm finding it hard to move on. :-(

It's hard for me to meet someone I like and in the past I let the fear of rejection get in the way of my feelings. So this time, I was honest about how I feel, not necessarily to him, but to myself and allowed myself to feel that it's ok to like someone. It backfired big time, huh?

Anyway, I'm hurt and I need a hug...

- Asked by Female, 26-28

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This guy couldn't even bother to give you an exsplanation?!Why would you worry over an ass like that anyway?

Everytime we meet someone (even those that suck) we come away learning a little more about ourselves and about others and how to deal with others.Each of these encounters better prepares you for when the right person does come along.

Your lucky,you got to learn this guys true side before becoming involved with him any deeper.You did just fine for the years before you met him and you can certainly do just fine after having known him...in fact,even better.Because now you have the opprotunity to find someone who you deserve instead of settleing for someone who's too cowardly to even face you when there is a problem.

- Response by justme38271, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Consulting

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*hugs*

Don't beat yourself up too much. I've done that too, and would do it again.

Truthfully, if you don't allow yourself to be emotionally available, you'll never find love.
Its wise though, to get attached slowly...we live and learn.

- Response by mamom04, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 46-55, Seattle

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{{{hugs}}}
Don't feel bad. You can call him. If he doesn't like you anymore so be it. There are more guys where he came from. And don't close yourself emotionaly. I am sure that you will meet the one that is spposed to be yours. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

- Response by lotsofadvice, A Life of the Party, Female, 29-35, New York, Who Cares?

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I am in a similar situation. Except me and this guy is officially dating for 3 months before we went away to his home country. No promises given, affection is like minimum or close to none, calls me lik once a week (optional). Hinted me that we r not ended yet but actions tells me the contrary. I missed him like crazy although i secretly know he is just letting me down easy.

I emailed him yesterday about my feelings of the things that we have done together that actually reminded me of him. I told him i had to tell him that i had to tell him because he would be the only one who would understand my state of feelings, like no other. So, too expressive/forward i guess, i set myself for the obvious rejection but i guess its good for me in a way cause its kind of torturing having to wait and wonder. Not knowing what to expect is the worst ever feeling. So, i think its not wrong finding out where ur fate might lead u. And u dont have to feel awful for the rejection if it is meant to be this way cause a one-sided relationship wont late and u can't say for sure that he is the right guy for u that u will be happy about, isn't it? Anyway, rejection doesn't mean it had to hurt ur self-esteem or confidence, it just means that u r setting urself back on the right track. There is no "too bad, it didn't work out" cause u haven't actually confirm on ur facts.

- Response by A Creative, Female, 26-28, Auckland

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