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Do you believe it is possible to miss someone you never really knew?
Family & Parenting / 6:47 PM - Wednesday November 18, 2009

Do you believe it is possible to miss someone you never really knew?

Like a grandparent that died while you were still very young? An absentee mother or father? A musician, even?

- Asked by Female, 29-35

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Sure, especially when it comes to family. Parts of them are parts of you and your children. My paternal grandfather passed away several years before I was born, but I have a photo of him that I cherish. He has the kindest, warmest brown eyes and a look on his face that reminds me so much of my dad. And everything I have heard about his personality includes qualities that I admire and aspire to.

With musicians or other celebrites, you long to know them because you admire and relate to their music or other art or legacy. It's normal, as long as you keep it all in perspective.


- Response by uniquelyme2, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Artist / Musician / Writer

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I think you can only miss what "could have been".

I have a sister who died before I was born. I've often wondered what life would have been like had she lived and regret not knowing her.

- Response by snowbear08, A Cool Mom, Female, 36-45, Pittsburgh, Political / Government

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Yes, I do think it's possible. I see it in my children all the time. They ask about the grandparents who died before they were born, or who died when they were young.

- Response by buffalothighs88, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Hospitality

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You connect with them at some level and can miss them.

- Response by frenchkiss49, A Thinker, Female, 56-65, Tampa, Who Cares?

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Yeah. I miss Patrick Swayze. Never met him, but I was looking forward to his next good film... then that cowboy at heart climbed in the saddle and rode off into the sunset... rek

- Response by rekkonball, A Guy Critical, Male, 66 or older, Retired

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On some level, but I rarely miss someone I've never known. My paternal grandfather died before I was born and I don't miss him. But I guess everyone is different.

- Response by italiangypsy, A Thinker, Female, Who Cares?, Philadelphia, Other Profession

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not really. you might miss the "idea" of who they were, but unless there are actually memories and recollections that can be called up, then there is no real point of referrence for "missing" a person.

- Response by two469, A Married Girl, Female, 66 or older, Houston, Retail

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Yes, I never met my grandfather and I have always missed him. And I never met my identical twin either but I miss her and feel like she is with me anyway.

- Response by dreamdancer, A Creative, Female, 29-35, Houston, Other Profession

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You miss the idea of them :(

- Response by TheSshhmoe, An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Student

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In a way, you are sort of missing part of "you" if it is a family member. A biological parent or a grandparent is part of your identity, even if it's just biology. It's part of your story, and I think it makes sense to want to know more to complete the picture and fill in the gaps of your identity that you wonder about.

- Response by blubelle, A Career Woman, Female, 22-25, Student

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