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| Dating / 2:53 PM - Thursday November 19, 2009 |
Why do ladies assume that if a man can leave, he will leave?For example: take the man that doesn't want, marriage, children or co-habitation. He could leave his relationship any time he got ready to with no real strings attached. That doesn't mean he will or even wants too. Yet every time I've told a woman I don't want these things even if we are in a long term relationship, she automatically assumes I'm waiting for something better to come along so I can up and leave. (has utterly convinced herself in most cases) Even though I've given her NO signs of leaving. When I'm in I'm in till the end. Just my own personal code
- Asked by Male, 29-35 |
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What other conclusion could a woman draw if you do not want to progress in your relationship? Marriage and children or at a bare minimum co-habitation is the natural progression of a relationship. If you want a long-term relationship but do not want to even live with a girl then you are going to have trouble finding a woman that doesn't want progress in her relationship cuz a woman's need to nest is much stronger than many men and they will not be happy this way. So if you do feel this way then it will become obvious to a woman that you are afraid of commitment and this will make them look towards themselves and feel inadequate cuz why else won't you commit to them.
- Response by aron77, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Kansas City, Student
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its not just that she thinks you will leave (even if that is what she tells you)... if she is asking for any or all of those things it is because she wants them... she knows that if there is no chance you are ever going to give them to her then she has to find someone who can... she just doesn't want to seem desperate so she makes the excuse that she doesn't trust you when really she just wants more than you are willing to give her... no offense, it just means she isn't the right one for you
- Response by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Who Cares?
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This is an interesting discussion! I think some people mix up committment with marriage/co-habitation/ children. While committment is often expressed through marriage/co-habitation /children it can also be expressed in other ways.
- Response by lasirenamorena, A Career Woman, Female, 29-35, Pittsburgh, Consulting
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Because we need that commitment. Plain and simple. It's every girls dream to have a wedding...you are asking her alot to be with you and not have that whole proposal/marriage thing. It's just the way we are wired. OR she could be very insecure? She may have low self-esteem and be threatened by other women that are more successful or more attractive. Just my 2c.
- Response by zinerva, An Engaged Girl, Female, 29-35, Dallas
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It's a normal progression if you're in a LTR to move on from "just" dating, so why are you surprised that if you tell someone that you aren't interested in even so much as ever living with someone that they want to break it off and find someone who shares their values? And if you really feel like that - they you never want to form any other attachment to someone other than just dating, why worry about what the women who leave think? You obviously have different values and the relationship is not going to work in the long run. I'm sure there are women out there, somewhere, who want the same sort of lifestyle that you want. Just wait for someone like that to come along.
- Response by An Alternative Girl, Female, 36-45
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