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Should I just give up? I think I should I really do.
Sex & Intimacy / 1:19 AM - Friday November 20, 2009

Should I just give up? I think I should I really do.

It's official, I'm bitter. I'm 21 and I'm bitter. I'll tell you why: Guys my age are nothing but a bunch of weird, strange, jackasses who seem to have lost any form of civility and decency along with a good portion of their IQ points. I don't really blame them so much as I blame the internet. Myspace,facebook, dating websites- seriously!? WTF! Whatever happened to meeting people in real-life social situations? Whatever happened to going out on an actual "date"- not hanging out at his/your house? What happened to NOT getting dumped for not putting out on the first date or never getting called back if you did? I really think I'm the only normal person my age left. I was dragged kicking and screaming into this whole"Meeting people online" thing and now that I'm here I'm more miserable and embittered than I ever could have been if I had just ignored all but websites used for information and entertainment!
You all probably think that I was probably dumped in order to spurn on this kind of rage towards the kinds of guys this new internet age has produced- and in a way you'd be right. Tonight I realized that a guy I have been in love with for THREE FUCKING YEARS was doing nothing but stringing me along and using me to stroke his little man ego whenever he wanted pity- the kicker is he accomplished this using Myspace(Not a call in nearly a year but oh he texted me and IM'd me whenever he got the chance) I really think if it hadn't been for the lack of verbal contact forced upon me by his chosen communication method I would have been able to pick up on this with my trusty bullshit meter but alas that wasn't the case. It's a pattern really: Everyone that I have any contact with via the internet totally screws up my B.S. detector(I have a string of ex-boyfriends, turned out to be one-nighters, and guys who didn't have the balls to serve rejection right to my face like any decent person would to prove this). And yes, to all the smart-asses out there, I see the irony in using an online community message board(kinda) to vent this frustration, but since this is the only way to have anyone perhaps see and maybe even empathize with my point of view I'm just gonna have to go with it.
As one last note: Fuck you internet. I am going to give up. You win!

As for an actual question: From reading the above do you think I should just prepare myself for a life of indignant rage an embitterment?

Update: November 20, 2009.
I just wanted to thank everyone for answering. I wish I could have given you all a star but my limit was three darn it!

- Asked by An Alternative Girl, Female, 18-21, Other Profession

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What I do hope is that other people who are now experiencing the same thing, and have not figured it out yet, will open their eyes, and just maybe not be hurt. If your story only reaches one single person then it was worth your post.

I do not think you are stupid or lame for not figuring this guy out sooner. They are pros at what they do. It is sad and unfortunate, but like you said, this new Internet Life, has brought this sort of deception into our lives.

Wake up out there and smell the coffee!! This girl is normal and she was taken in. It can happen to YOU too.

- Response by randyl, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Los Angeles, Who Cares?

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You are much smarter than the average female your age. It is BS. And as much as I hate to say this, you will meed to demand more from yourself to avoid this in the future. Get areal life. Get out and volunteer for some cause, develop a creative life, become a whole human being and then refuse to share your whole self with someone that is less whole. The guys have gotten lazy as hell, and the gals are willing to "settle" for this because it is better to be with anyone than to be alone. That is the core problem here... I empathize all right... Now change it! Maybe you can start a movement of "demand more, share more" and relationships can return to being an addition to a life and not the reason for a life... Geesh! And I am proud of you. Just in case you care...

- Response by siouxzen, A Creative, Female, 46-55, Los Angeles, Self-Employed

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Ah if it wasn't the internet the guys your age would find other ways to screw you over. Boys don't really become men til they start pushing 30 and sometimes not even then. Being young gives them a licence to be a dumb ass in order to hopefully learn from their mistakes. However the internet does seem to make it easier to not invest in someone cuz there is someone else readily available only a click away and it doesn't take much to come into contact with a girl in the first place so it is easy to walk away.

But learn this, if one has to work hard to get somethign then they will work harder to keep it. So those guys who walked away cuz you didn't put out on the first date were doing you a favor as well as the ones who didn't call back. Hopefully you are learning to pick wiser as time goes on.

- Response by aron77, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Kansas City, Student

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Ah if it wasn't the internet the guys your age would find other ways to screw you over. Boys don't really become men til they start pushing 30 and sometimes not even then. Being young gives them a licence to be a dumb ass in order to hopefully learn from their mistakes. However the internet does seem to make it easier to not invest in someone cuz there is someone else readily available only a click away and it doesn't take much to come into contact with a girl in the first place so it is easy to walk away.

But learn this, if one has to work hard to get somethign then they will work harder to keep it. So those guys who walked away cuz you didn't put out on the first date were doing you a favor as well as the ones who didn't call back. Hopefully you are learning to pick wiser as time goes on.

- Response by aron77, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Kansas City, Student

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Ah if it wasn't the internet the guys your age would find other ways to screw you over. Boys don't really become men til they start pushing 30 and sometimes not even then. Being young gives them a licence to be a dumb ass in order to hopefully learn from their mistakes. However the internet does seem to make it easier to not invest in someone cuz there is someone else readily available only a click away and it doesn't take much to come into contact with a girl in the first place so it is easy to walk away.

But learn this, if one has to work hard to get somethign then they will work harder to keep it. So those guys who walked away cuz you didn't put out on the first date were doing you a favor as well as the ones who didn't call back. Hopefully you are learning to pick wiser as time goes on.

- Response by aron77, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Kansas City, Student

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Ah if it wasn't the internet the guys your age would find other ways to screw you over. Boys don't really become men til they start pushing 30 and sometimes not even then. Being young gives them a licence to be a dumb ass in order to hopefully learn from their mistakes. However the internet does seem to make it easier to not invest in someone cuz there is someone else readily available only a click away and it doesn't take much to come into contact with a girl in the first place so it is easy to walk away.

But learn this, if one has to work hard to get somethign then they will work harder to keep it. So those guys who walked away cuz you didn't put out on the first date were doing you a favor as well as the ones who didn't call back. Hopefully you are learning to pick wiser as time goes on.

- Response by aron77, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Kansas City, Student

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Ah if it wasn't the internet the guys your age would find other ways to screw you over. Boys don't really become men til they start pushing 30 and sometimes not even then. Being young gives them a licence to be a dumb ass in order to hopefully learn from their mistakes. However the internet does seem to make it easier to not invest in someone cuz there is someone else readily available only a click away and it doesn't take much to come into contact with a girl in the first place so it is easy to walk away.

But learn this, if one has to work hard to get somethign then they will work harder to keep it. So those guys who walked away cuz you didn't put out on the first date were doing you a favor as well as the ones who didn't call back. Hopefully you are learning to pick wiser as time goes on.

- Response by aron77, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 29-35, Kansas City, Student

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my first bf of 3 years in HS dumped me via AIM. then strung me along making my pitiful self think he'd want me back after we were FWB, then i realized i couldn't go on lying to myself and i cut him out. then i had a bunch of one night stands, some i had hoped to become relationships, but were not.

give up, drop the whole thing. forget about men, seriously tell yourself to give up. FORGET IT. SCREW MEN. stop looking around!........

because when i stopped looking, i found him :)

it was the best gift for a bitter and angry girl.

- Response by A Thinker, Female, 22-25, Who Cares?

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Bless your heart.Your about the age of our oldest daughter (she's 22) and you sound exactly like she did about a year ago.The only difference is you seem to take it more personally than she did but that may just be because she didn't want to show that side to me.

It sounds like when you meet a guy and you two have some things in common (such as want to do things together) you think relationship and it might help if you think friend for a bit instead first.Give yourself time to see who they are and what they're about before comitting yourself in any way.If they can't wait on that then let them move on down the road.

And too,take time to figure out what you want and exspect from a guy.Away from the pressures of being on a date decide now what the rules will be.Decide what is a plus and what is a deal breaker and keep that in mind once your out with a guy.

The only way to get someone who is right for you is to decide what you want,decide how you want them to be first before meeting them and don't compromise on that or settle for less or think maybe he will change or you can fix him later.

Your the gatekeeper.Your job is to make you happy and their job is to be the type of person that makes you happy.Whether or not you make them happy is their business.

- Response by justme38271, A Mr. Married Guy, Male, 36-45, Consulting

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