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Any advice for a guy in a relationship with a sex performer at a chat site ? How to find out if.....
Sex & Intimacy / 6:28 PM - Friday November 20, 2009

Any advice for a guy in a relationship with a sex performer at a chat site ? How to find out if.....

she's honest and for real ?

- Asked by A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45

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what is a sex performer at a chat site? do you mean a girl that is showing everything to the guys for money?

all that means is that's her job. just like a stripper or phone sex operator. so, it comes down to how you treat her. i would TRUST her to a point right from the start. and ALSO realize she's thinking "can i trust a guy that hangs around sex performers/strippers/ho okers all the time?"

you guys HAVE to communicate, and its that much MORE important since she's making money in the sex arena. talk about what you expect and what she expects. find out what problems she's had in the past with relationships and ask her if there is anything you can do to make her trust you more, then do it. and likewise, she should ask the same for you, and think about what you want from her to prove her faithfulness to you.

you CAN'T ask her to give up her job the first day, unless you plan on supporting her from day 1.

so, communicate, and be HONEST, even if it is NOT the easiest thing to say to her, and you just might end up with the girl.

- Response by pizzatroll, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 36-45, Science / Engineering

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Dude. She's an internet ho.

Get a clue.

- Response by llafsroh, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 36-45, Boston, Science / Engineering

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Honest and for real??? About what exactly?? How she feels about you? I need to ask Are you in a r/s with her physically and that is her job?? or are you in a cyber r/s with her and that is her job?? There would be two very diff answers depending on how you explain your r/s with her?? Am I being too analytical?? I need more info please?? :D

- Response by 1sassychic, A Married Girl, Female, 36-45, Student

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you can usually tell by the way they come on to you and how fast and eager they are. speaking of eager, there is one member in here by the name EAGERBEAVER who is posing as a bi female in order to pick-up other real bi females or straight females for intimate conversation. EAGERBEAVER, as many of us in here know, is really a young guy simply out for his kicks. Most of us simply ignore him and his perverted questions usually asked under anonymous. He's harmless and will eventually go away. But anytime we get the chance to warn someone about him (usually new unsuspecting members), that she is a really a he no matter how hard he tries to convince us otherwise. No female asks the harsh perverted questions he does.

- Response by A Career Man, Male, 36-45

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life ain't so simple, critical guy. if she works at making sex noises, then she's trained to do it and it's part of her sexual "vocabulary". it would be naive to think that she wouldn't bring some of it to bed with her. why the need for an "either/or" scenario. why not just enjoy what you hear, see, feel, taste...

"no prob, bob."

- Response by two469, An Engaged Guy, Male, Who Cares?, Military

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If she ever wants your VISA card number, she's not really interested in you at all.

- Response by greenwind, An Intellectual Guy, Male, 56-65, Seattle, Construction

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She's as honest as real as your cold hard cash. And not a penny beyond it.

- Response by buffalothighs88, A Hippie Chick, Female, 46-55, Hospitality

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Sheesh! You can't be serious! She is 1) NOT honest, 2) may not be what you're looking at. I have a friend who wrote, then supplied a sex site with her voice. She's in heer late 60s and about 70 pounds overweight. Nice, purring voice, though.

- Response by rholuc, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 66 or older, Retired

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That's a tough one. You're having virtual sex, and you're not quite sure if your virtual girlfriend is really a female at all? Try to test her out. Ask her questions only a girl would know. I didnt know they still had chat rooms, private or otherwise.

- Response by betterbird, A Creative, Male, 46-55, San Francisco, Administrative

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