A question about breasts..

My cousin had a baby about a year and a half ago. She had plenty in the bust department as is, but of course they got bigger with the pregnancy, feeding, and general weight gain.

Now she's not breast feeding anymore and has lost all the pregnancy weight - her cup size has gone back down - but the skin on her breasts isnt as firm as before.

Does anyone know whether this is permanent? And what she can do to help firmness of the skin? Any creams actually work?

Thanks!

Caring for a horrid elderly parent.

My mother is wretched. She was physically and emotionally abusive to me as a child. When I was 5 years old, she punched me in the face and broke my nose. My mother said I deserved it, as I had provoked her. She remains to this day unrepentant. As I got bigger the physical abuse stopped but she remains both verbally and emotionally abusive. We are estranged...

She is now old and frail. Her younger sister (my aunt) has been her caregiver. Now my aunt wants out and has told me it is my turn to take my mother in and care for her. Would you take care of a wretched parent?

What is personal to you?

My dad has been...........

cooking! actually making home made meals! Im happy he is he use to long ago but his job he had would impede him to take time with me and my mom....

right now they are making some italian food stuff with seafood it looks good :O)

MOTIVATION may work?

How can I MOTIVATE (other than talking with) my college adult children put their dishes in the dish washer right after they used it? And wash their bathroom when it is dirty? I have done enough talking. I don't give them allowance any more. Hold back the allowance doesn't work. I do pay for their college tuition, but I don't think tuition can be hold back.

What do I do about my son's defiance?

My 9 year old son is a good boy, but his mouth gets him in trouble ALL the time. For some reason, he thinks he can talk back to me ALL the time. He comments or questions everything I say and it seems like it's getting worse. For example, if I say it's time to get ready for bed - he says why? I told him tonight that he needs ti get an hour of reading time because he's been watching tv all day and he says well nobody else on spring break has to read. I keep telling him to listen to what I say and not comment but it must be a bad habit because he can't stop it. I'm afraid I'm going to yell at him really loud if it doesn't get through tp him soon. There must be a better way to handle this. Please help!

Do you visit your relatives weekly...

or was the 1st half of your life quite enough??!!

ABORTION question about minors and parents

Do you think 13-17 year old girls should be able to get abortions without any parental consent or notification?

Laws vary by states.

Some states require both parents be informed, some require just one parent or legal guardian, some require parental consent, some just require parental notification before the procedure, some states don't require anything at all. A teenage could get an abortion without any adults knowing about it.

Update: March 21, 2010.
These laws protect the pregnant girl. In some cases, her parents might force her to give birth to the baby against her will. Or they might force her into an abortion against her will. The whole "you live under my roof so you obey my rules" mentality that most parents have concerning less serious issues might extend to abortions. It certainly extends to dating, curfews, dress codes and general conduct. There aren't any clear answers when it comes to the welfare of children so parents just try their best. I can understand parents wanting to know everything serious about their children but can you honestly say you wouldn't try to convince her one way or another concerning her pregnancy?

Update: March 21, 2010.
About 15 states allow minors to get abortions without parental notification or consent. However, these same states require parental consent to get a minor's ears pierced.

The world seems to stand still, when a loved one takes that final journey, doesn't it?

The world seems a bit quieter, perhaps a show of sheer respect for one who has passed, and those who mourn their lost. The world suddenly becomes silent, whenever a love one has taken their last breath, and while we take them to their final resting place. It is a lost that fills the heart with much sorrow. I have taken that journey with my own parents, and now my tasks are of my own siblings, who are themselves becoming older, with one passing already.

Have you dealt with a passing of a loved one as of late, or not too distance past?

How difficult was your lost?

What to do - going through a divorce in my 40s - kids in college my parents are in their 80s now

All my sibling moved away out of state except one who is disabled and who has lived with my parents for years. I am looking for an apartment to live in now I am divorcing. My dad is upset because I won't live with them. He thinks I can help them if I lived with them. I think I can help and have my own life and do adult things if I move close to them but don't live with them. My dad is upset about me not wanting to live in their house. I think this is because his brother and his sister in law just moved into an assisted living center. This happened because his son who shared the house with him just passed away and they had no one to help them out with things. My dad won't talk to me now. I am starting to see his regression now!!! Am I wrong? Should I move in with them?