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Dating / 16 hours ago

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I wish I had a couple of good dating advisers when he was dating me. Then maybe he'd still be here.

I do blame myself. I realize that I made a small incident big that turned him off. I could've phrased something properly but didn't think it over. I realize there were warning signs and didn't ask what's going on or if something was bothering him.

We had a great valentines, he took me to dinner at a fancy place, I gave him a nice gift. He took me to the movies and paid for them. I treated him to a concert. I thought we had good conversations and got along well.

I was always available to him mainly because it was winter and I work from home, it was easy to be homey and not plan for much. But I do have my hobbies and interests, which he knows about.

One night, we were playing with my dog whom I called my boy and he asked me if he could be my boy too. I said yes. At that point, I thought, you know...3 months, did he just confirm he's my boyfriend? That made my night.

Two weeks later we had an incident. I should remember not to demand an answer. When he abruptly changed plans an hour before a date to go riding with his buddies, I should've said something instead of just 'okay'. When he apologized by text message next day, I should've called him to ask what happened instead replying to his text 'yes honey I was disappointed. call me when youre free, you have some explaining to do."

He posted on his myspace that he's divorcing his wife after that. I knew it was meant for me. He didn't call back. For 2 months. I didn't reach out to him either. Two stubborn people.

We met again after 2 months, he contacted and invited me to dinner. He wanted to apologize that time but I didn't let him. I didn't want to get emotional after not seeing him that I asked if we could just enjoy dinner and talk about it some other time. Wrong move again on my part. I should've let him speak his mind and just kept my chin up.

I should've said something when a coworker started coming on to him. I sensed it immediately as soon as I read her first post to him. But I didn't say anything, scared that he might think I'm a bitch or I'm crazy.

She's good. She knew how to time it, friends first, then little cute posts, support and encouraging words as coworkers. My words of praise fell on deaf ears.

Still I tried. For a month, he invited me out but no longer on a weekend. And he didn't invite me to the movies, just dinner. I took him to another show. But he didn't like it I think (he said he wanted to see it). When he finally did ask me to a Friday night date, we ended up sleeping together. When he said he was so happy after, I didn't know what to say, I blurted out, 'aww you're happy because we had sex.'

He offered to treat me to birthday dinner and forgot about it. And I stupidly didn't do anything when I should've called him to ask what's up when I didn't hear from him that night. I emailed him a few days later and he left me a voicemail apologizing that he was so busy with bowling and concerts but he issued no more invitations after that.

He started going out with his coworker and dropped me without any explanation. She's cool, a sport biker and wine enthusiast like him.

I emailed him a month after that his last voicemail, saying that I was glad to reconnect with him, wanted to take things slow and when he asked me for a date, I thought he wanted to date me again. But it went downhill from there and now, no communication so I have to bow out.

Wrong move again. I read you're not supposed to send the closure email. Two weeks after my closure email, he posted on myspace that he's super happy with his girlfriend as they attend banquets and parties and their coworkers are happy for them.

I'm not supposed to mourn someone who strung me along and couldn't even tell me things aren't working out anymore. But I am sad for this loss because I liked him already. I thought he was going to stick around. One part of me argues I wish I knew the right things to do so he would've stayed. The other part of me argues, his behavior wasn't crystal clear either.

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 29-35, Other Profession

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Dating / 17 hours ago

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am i in an abusive relationship or wat is it really?

my boyfriend and i wer 2gether for 6yrs have a 1yr old we had a few fallen outs befor but a few days ago we fought i mean hit for hit kinda thing he was kinda under alcohol too, i checkd his phone an i notice he called this girl number who he claim he dont no so i get mad an slap da fuck out him with the phone for lien to me we started fighting i really have a trust issue with him, he hit me as if he didnt care i was a woman chocked and punched me he has slapped me befor but the way he hit me this time was like it was demons that had pozest him to freak out like that he bruised my thigh i love him and even tho i think we wer both wrong i dont no wat to do now because i feel like he doesnt even love me the way i love him anymore.i dont want him to hit me again cuz i think i mite killl him, now we havent spoken to each other in days even living in the same house and he's been going out an not sayin anything.... i need some advice please

Update: November 20, 2009.
lol yea we do. its not like he is hit me when ever he wants too i more likely provoked him but i was pissed becuz he lied too me

- Asked by mimila, A Sportif, Female, 18-21

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Dating / 17 hours ago

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The guy I broke up with a year ago and dated for 3 years got married last week...

I am feeling so depressed. I know we were not right for each other (he was unfaithful and gave me an infection) but I wanted it to work and I really cared for him. I hadn't been with anyone except him since my divorce over 15 years ago. Why do relationships have to be so complicated? Now I know why it took me 15 years to even consider a relationship after my divorce. Are all men alike? The ones I've been with are.

- Asked by Female, 46-55

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Dating / 17 hours ago

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Well he is at work right now that's where

Good laugh is priceless I have to tell YA : )
I got private e-mail asking me where is that guy am taken with :) It took me a moment to think and respond well he is at work :) What is this about and who the hell are you?

Another e-mail NO why don't you have his photo on your profile where is he on it LOL LOL LOL
Do you have photo of your guy-girl on profile or it that big NO NO for you ?

Update: November 20, 2009.
LOL LOL (blush) : ) Yes i understand thats exactly why many including myself people don't do this there is to many insane lunatics to have your loved ones exposed to them by putting up their photos...

- Asked by shygirl1979, A Sweet Sarah, Female, 26-28, Medical / Dental

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Dating / 18 hours ago

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havings dreams about your ex on a regular basis.

i don't understand why, but i always seem to have dreams about my ex boyfriend. they're always the same, but the end is usually similar. it's always us with a group of people, then it turns to just us, sneaking some time alone, and talking about our feelings together. it usually ends up with us kissing, or snuggling or something.

i tried looking up the dream psychology on this, but nothing suited my dream situation.

can anybody suggest what they might mean?

i was thinking maybe i'm still looking for some kind of answer or something.. but i don't care anymore! i'm in a new, very happy relationship. all this was from 2-3 years ago and i'm now in a relationship that's a year old. why won't these dreams leave me alone?

what could they mean?

- Asked by xokimmierose, A Life of the Party, Female, 18-21, Toronto

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Dating / 19 hours ago

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Your opinion about the post date text

went on a date with a guy. The next day I sent him a text telling him I had a nice time and hoping that he got home safely.

A guy pal of mine said the "got home safely" part was very mommyish and not wlecomed.

In some ways I view the remark as a social convention (like asking how are you and not expecting to get anything more detailed than "Fine"). But just in case, I thought I would ask.

In general, are texts of this type welcomed at all.

Update: November 21, 2009.
Thanks for responding. What do you do post date wise when you had a good time and would like to see the person again?

- Asked by A Thinker, Female, 29-35, London, Executive

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Dating / 19 hours ago

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How agressive are you

when it comes to putting out the signals to let a man know you are interested? I want to make sure he "gets" it. LOL

- Asked by watbuttondoipush, An Alternative Girl, Female, Who Cares?, Financial / Banking

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Dating / 19 hours ago

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Is he just not that into me?

I like this guy and he seems to like me too, we seem to have quite a bit in common an we're around the same age, but he doesn't want to date me incase it doesn't work out, as he is very close with my parents and doesn't want to jeopardise his friendship with them.

Would it be correct of me to assume he just isn't that interested in me? I mean, he obviously doesn't think I'm worth the risk and doesn't have much hope for us as a couple... right?

- Asked by A Sweet Sarah, Female, 18-21, Student

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Dating / 20 hours ago

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I briefly dated a guy divorced from a 21 year marriage. We never had sex now he wants to be friends.

I briefly dated a guy who was married for 21 years and his wife divorced him after she had an affair. He has been divorced for 1 and a half years. We dated really hot and heavy for a few months and then he said he could not be in a relationship right now. I respected his wishes and did not contact him after that. He then called me up about a month later and said he really cares for me and wants to keep in touch or be friends. He lives 265 miles away and we were never intimate but we had great chemistry and physical attraction. When his youngest child graduates from high school in two years he plans to possibly move to the city where I live. What does this mean?

- Asked by Female, 36-45

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