I'm sad. Please cheer me up.

I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I haven't heard anything from him for a week, especially when he said he'd call.

I know that means he's not interested and I need to let go, but unfortunately, I still really like him, so I'm finding it hard to move on. :-(

It's hard for me to meet someone I like and in the past I let the fear of rejection get in the way of my feelings. So this time, I was honest about how I feel, not necessarily to him, but to myself and allowed myself to feel that it's ok to like someone. It backfired big time, huh?

Anyway, I'm hurt and I need a hug...

why is the man im seeing for the past 6 months who recently told me he loved me not calling as much?

its been 5 days and i refuse to make the first contact. call it a game if u wish, but im leaving it up to him. if this is his way to leave me, then go for it. but why so soon after saying he loved me? is this some sort of normal guy behavior? i know when he's at work and usually does his calling then, but he hasn't been. ):

I could really use a few more answers, I am still lost, also if you do think I should email her,

what should I say that won't have me sounding desperate?

Did she not like me? I met this really cool girl at the library the other day, we got to talking

and we had alot in common. I asked her if she wanted to go across the street to the cafe and she said ok. When we got there she asked if I minded taking our coffee outside so she could smoke. I was quite turned off by this but I obliged. She asked me if I smoked and I made a stupid comment, as I always do around girls and said "no I don't want to lose a lung" she gave me a rather noticable dirty look, but didn't decide to leave. I then asked if I could have her number so I could call her sometime, she said she does not like giving her number out, but I could have her email. I said ok, I think she did not want to give me her number because the comment I made about smoking, well I emailed her and asked her dinner. Last night is when we went to dinner, I thought things went great, I felt a strong connection with her, we then went on the peir and were just talking for about an hour, although the whole time she was smoking, although I must say this girl is just to cute and intereting to let smoking be a show stopper. Once when we were on the peir I tried to put my arm around her but she quickly dodged this move. I was upset but did not let it deter me. Later while I was waiting with her until her cab came I went to say goodbye and give her a kiss, she dodged it like a bullet, but then said " I had alot of fun tonight, it'd be cool if we could hang out again" I said ok well I'll email you, she gave me a very cold hug and got in her cab. Where did I go wrong? The smoking comment? If so why did she agree to dinner? Was it something I did during dinner that she disliked? Does she just want to keep me in the friends zone? Would I seem like a chump if I emailed her now after she dodged both my trying to put my arm around her and the goodnight kiss. Please give some advice. I have never really dated and am always stupid and nervous around the ladies. I am sure she was turned off by something I did but what if she wasn't and I don't contact her then I would feel stupid, but then I don't want to contact her and then she be like "why didn't he get the hint?" Help?

Will they dare to answer : ) ?

Gentleman let me ask you this :
Do Man ever cry over Woman or is this stuff of legends and fairy tales ?

Ladies did guy ever cried over you and what did you do about it ?

Need To Be More Aggressive With Women! Help!

I've been hanging out with this girl for a few weeks and I have a history of not being aggressive enough with women...and nothing ends up happening. What's the best way to go about showing her I'm into her, without saying it? In other words, what is the best way to be aggressive? Testing physical boundaries? Compliments? Any type of date ideas? Men: let me know what techniques actions work for. Women: let me know what types of things work ON you. I'm trying to get this area of my dating life fixed.

Update: November 18, 2009.
Thanks everyone for the advice (even the funny ones haha). We've only hung out twice over a good amount of time. I don't talk to her a lot, so I wouldn't friend myself. We went out to dinner Monday night (I asked because she mentioned that we should go sometime). I wanted to hold her hand...but didn't get up the nerve to. I was going to ask her today if she is busy tomorrow. If she isn't, I was going to say "Well, let me take you to see [whatever movie]." Does that sound direct enough? Oh, and by "aggressive, I meant direct/assertive. Thanks guys!

Are guys really intimidated by a smart girl?

i have a guy friend whom ive had sex with who is the intellectual equal to me. We are now just friends as we have other partners. I miss the mind connection as my new partner does not challenge me as much as my friend. We do still hang out but do not talk so much anymore. I think my new partner is intimidated by my thinking processes. Should i move on?

Do you consider it a good or bad sign if a guy gives you a hug after the 2nd date & no kiss?

Hypothetical sistuation; You really like a girl and you say to her 1 night, after 5 mounts of dating

I'm tired of 'dating' and am looking for something 'serious,' I was married once and loved it, only I was married to the wrong woman."

Now imagine she just looks at you and says, "really, how long were you married... again?" basically not responding to your question at all.

Would you drop the relationship at this point?

Now say, your curious, you stick around and you bring it up again a few months later and get a similar response, OK, then what?

Then three months after that, say 10 months after the relationship started, she says to you, so what are we doing here... what are you thinking about you and me? At this point do you think it is just too late?

In what sistuation would you of even stuck around so long (to the 10 months point)...if you are still here and is there a part of you that would just take pleasure in the, oh well it's to late possibilities?

This happened to a friend of mine. She was stubborn and insecure and basically couldn't speak her mind and lost the dude. I hope she lived and learned. :)

If he doesn't care if Im there for Thanksgiving, is he NOT that into me ?

Dating a guy for 5 months. 30 dates.
moving to his city for work and friends in january
he said he isnt dating anyone else but still has his ad up on match.com
says it just for fun to entertain him when he's bored at work
we still havent had sex but have done oral and ive slept over at his house when visiting him 15 times now.
i was nice and have helped his younger brother meet a great new girl
she wants to take things slowly, but his brother emailed me and told he invited her to their parents house fo rthanksgiving dinner after only 3 dates.....

The guy Im dating hadnt mentioned thanksgiving plans yet to me.......
my friends say that he DOESNT act that excited about seeing me for thanksgiving.

yes or no ?

MENovember 17 at 3:33pm
uh so your bro just sent me the email he sent XXXXX.
Wow she's coming to Thanksgiving after just 3 dates ?
Thats nice of him

HIM November 17 at 4:07pm
XXXX is sure moving fast for a girl who doesn't want to date.
Anyway, Thxday is coming up fast! What are you doing for it?


ME November 17 at 4:38pm
No idea what im doing thanksgiving ...
Invited down to savannah and out to montana for cousins' thanksgivings but those are long hauls.
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ME November 17 at 5:08pm
Do you want me to come down for THanksgiving ?
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HIM November 17 at 5:13pm
Sure, I guess Mom already knows guests are coming. I have no idea what's up for Txg


ME November 17 at 5:18pm
Ttyl XXXX is with me at xxxxx and peering over my shoulder reading yr texts and chiming in her commentary
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HIM November 17 at 5:20pm
quick, I need to be charming...crap, how do i do that? >>>>

A friend thinks he can't find a date.

This question is for women only.

Would you want to date a man with these features:

1. 5ft. 7in. tall
2. Mexican